I don't usually set New Year's resolutions for myself, but this year will be a little bit different as I want to focus on achievable goals. Goals that are low maintenance, but significant in day to day. I've come up with 5 goals that are relevant to all of us moms that you should be able to attain too! Hopefully at least one of these you will be able to stick with.
Lower my expectations: I mean let's be honest, I can't be the only mom out there who tallies up a to-do list everyday that's miles long, right? Personally I'm horrible about compromising that list to be shorter, but for the sake of my sanity it needs to happen. We have to remember that we already are faced with the hardest job there is, motherhood. Why do we drive ourselves totally nuts over whether or not the dishes are kept up with or caring about what our floors look like all the time while still being aware that those little humans we have running around are bound to create messes. They thrive and learn through play and that means without a doubt things will get misplaced. This one will take some mind work, but we can do this!
Embrace the pajama days: Call me crazy, but I despise not getting dressed everyday. I feel less confident and in turn I naturally become less motivated and productive. So this one may not pertain to each and every one of you in the same way as it does for me, but it can still be relevant to you because you should indulge in those days! We're all trying to stay afloat as parents and navigating each stage is beyond exhausting at times. You deserve to take a step back because it's not crucial to have it all together.
Practice saying "yes" more: Some days I admit I wake up on the wrong side of the bed or as the day grows onward I end up dealing with meltdown after meltdown. The "I want to pull my hair out" kind of days. Those days in particular are where I catch myself having less self-awareness and I'm telling my daughter "no" more than I'm telling her "yes."
Life is better when you're laughing: While there are days you just want to cry, try finding a balance and incorporating more laughter into your days. I find it beneficial to laugh in some of life's most stressful moments. You will find that everything is actually okay during those times and you may come up with better, more rational solutions to problems. I know you run into days where everything just kind of snowballs and you feel like you'll never get out door with your kids, but you'll be able to better enjoy your life this way.
Faithfully count my blessings: It's amazing how easily you can seem to forget about the bigger picture in life and those things and people who truly matter when you run into times where nothing is going right. I am so guilty of worrying about things going wrong that haven't even happened yet! I need to practice counting my blessings over counting what went wrong or what might go wrong in my day. Think about those tiny details about your children that you absolutely adore and all their little quirks. Remember how special you are and how lucky you are to have the title of being their mother.
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