Raising tiny humans is no walk in the park. The newborn days had me lost in a jumble of no routine, and I found myself worrying about things I couldn’t control. Somewhere along the way, however, I bounced back – and I’ve grown into my role as Mom by making small changes to my day-to-day life.
Here are four ways that have made my day-to-day life so much easier as a mom.
Create a daily rhythm: When it comes to my parenting style, I’m more laid back when it comes to schedules and routines. I set clear boundaries for my daughter, but I'm okay with not giving her a bath every night, and playtime running into her naptime. As for keeping house, a schedule with daily goals is my lifeline. Having a constant list to refer to allows me to manage my time so much better! For the sake of my own happiness, I also make sure certain things get done on certain days of the week. You’ll be amazed at how some additional structure in your day actually makes for a surprisingly not-so-structured life – with plenty of free time to play with your babies, and perhaps even get some rest!
Include imaginative play with your to-dos: As a mom, you have a lot to do, and while putting away the dishes or doing your makeup may seem like “no-kid zones”, that’s not true! When I do my makeup, I allow my daughter to play pretend with my safer tools that she can't break, like my makeup brushes, or things she can't open. It's become a daily activity of fun she looks forward to, and I get to do my makeup without rushing, and free of guilt. The same could go for doing the dishes, folding the laundry, or sweeping the floor. Try including them in the actual chores, too!
Keep their age in mind: Kids will be kids, and sometimes, our expectations of their behavior are just unrealistic.These little people are human, just like us, and there’s a lot of good that can come from big emotions (yes, even if they are portrayed as tantrums). When your toddler acts out in the store, give them a hug and communicate your understanding of their meltdown. Try not to shame them for their mistakes. Gentle gestures and open conversation can help us relax and acknowledge the emotion or behavior instead of immediately trying to fix it. Our children are much smarter than we give them credit for, and by respecting their emotions, you and your children will be happier.
Simple is smarter: By helping our kids choose toys and other goods selectively, they will remain engaged for longer. Less toys makes for easier clean ups, inspires independent play, and will leave you one happy mama! I've been living a minimalist lifestyle for the past 3 years, and it has left me with far less stress by only owning things that represent me in the best ways. I actually value every item in my home, and since I am a lover of shopping at the same time, I am the best example that anyone can make it work, because as I got into the groove of minimalism, I gradually adapted to going through things once a month or once every other month. Be mindful of what you love and use often to rid yourself from accumulating junk. As I shop for new things, I try to eliminate items in my home to keep this going successfully.
What are some ways that you've made motherhood easier? Share them in the comments!